Being real.

Believe in yourself for who you are inside. You are not the sum of your parts. Your fetishes, your fandoms, are a distraction. They comfort, they provide escapism, they can give the illusion of power over others and the self. For some, that's enough. That's safe. But it's not real.

Life's not about who has the weirdest fetish, who is more oppressed than others, who is more x than y. Life's not about finding a fandom that supports all of your questionable behavior, bad habits, harmful activities, and desires without question.